Know the true scope of violent behavior

There is a big difference between being a frank and frontal person, and being someone with violent behavior, but there are many who confuse these two concepts. And it is that the culture of recent years has made us become a little more aggressive, which is a big problem.

It is very true that we cannot go down the street, with a smile 24 hours a day, or that we simply shut up when we are attacked. But neither is it correct, nor normal, that our character reflects a great deal of aggressiveness most of the time.

Possessing violent behavior does not generate any benefit and can be more dangerous than you think. It is good to analyze ourselves and be attentive in case someone close to you has this problem, here we tell you how to identify it.

Are violent behavior and fits of anger the same thing?

These two problems are often confused, but they are different in terms of how they manifest, although they have origins and motivations in common. It is very important to identify their differences, since this will help us to act correctly before those who suffer from it.

rage attacks

The attacks of anger are an impulsive, explosive and sometimes even unconscious response, it is a kind of time bomb that explodes at the moment. In general, those who suffer from this problem can have a calm character most of the time.

Anger can appear unexpectedly when you are under a lot of stress, pressure or some unpleasant circumstance. In most cases, after the episode, those who suffer from it become aware of their actions and regret their behavior.

violent behavior

When we talk about violent behavior, we refer to a state where the individual applies aggression in a generalized way in many aspects of their behavior. This way of acting is constant, conscious and does not associate it as a problem.

Their aggression is manifested verbally, psychologically and in the most critical state, physically, this being the most damaging. It uses the violent and aggressive response as a method of defense and manipulation, to exert dominance over others.

This behavior acts progressively and can manifest itself even from childhood. It is crucial to detect it in time and correct it, because as the individual gains confidence, his actions will be more harmful both for him and those around him. 

What causes this problem?

It is normal to feel rejection or contempt for people who have this type of behavior, and due to their actions they are not a good example for anyone. It is understandable to judge them, but in most cases there are traumatic events that cultivated their violence.

The most common reasons that generate such behavior are the following:

Child abuse

It can be classified as one of the main causes, because when a child is raised with violence, abuse and aggression, the perspective that this is correct is created. Violent behavior often operates in repetitive cycles from parent to child.

Imposing punishments or disciplines that entail physical harm, making constant use of shouting, offenses and using threats, is an exact formula to generate a violent and abusive individual in the future. Children cultivate hatred towards their aggressor and project it onto others.

Abandonment

If you suffer abandonment from one or both paternal figures, you can cultivate the thought that life treats you with hostility, and therefore act in the same way towards everyone, as a method of protection.

Many orphaned children come to experience violent behavior and little respect for authority, feeling that no one cares about them, their attitude becomes aggressive.

Contact with alcohol or drugs

Alcohol or drugs can produce a very strong dependence on the person who consumes them, to the point that their character is transformed. Being deprived of a vice, a person can react very aggressively in search of obtaining it.

On the other hand, its use also gradually alters your emotions, so while you are under the influence of these, your behavior can become very violent and uncontrolled.

These are some of the most common causes, but violent behavior can also be due, in some cases, to other psychological pathologies, such as bipolarity or schizophrenia.

Consequences of engaging in violent behavior

Our actions always leave consequences and if we go through life with a hostile and aggressive attitude, this will leave us with an unfavorable bill. This is how violent people often end up dealing with the following problems.

constant conflicts

If your way of communicating is violent and hostile, for some it will be intimidating, but others will interpret it as an offense and respond in the same way.

People with this type of behavior constantly clash with those who disapprove of their attitude.

judicial problems

Violence and aggression intensify over time, so it is not uncommon for someone who does not control their character at some point to be denounced as an aggressor. The law has expanded much more in terms of the application of sanctions to violent conduct.

Currently, any type of abuse is sufficient reason to go to court and request support. It is even advisable to do it when this attitude is appreciated in its early stages and has not yet reached the physical.

Rejection and missed opportunities

Aggressive behavior can cause someone to lose their job, be disqualified from a position or be denied entry to some stages. If someone is violent, this makes them not a very good team player.

When there is a person with these types of characteristics in an environment, most refrain from interacting or socializing to avoid their reactions and attitudes. A violent character can even completely overshadow someone's talent.

sentimental instability

It is very difficult for someone with this attitude to find someone who tolerates their behavior, this makes most of their relationships unsuccessful. In general, if a relationship like this prospers, it is because the violent one exercises control over his partner.

How to deal with the problem?

If the person manages to recognize that they have a problem, they should seek psychological help from a specialist. Behavioral problems are treated with therapy and in some cases medication is required if there are some other pathologies.

The basis is to manage to control their emotions, recognize that their way of acting hurts everyone around them and heal the wounds caused by that hostile response, towards everyone around them.

No type of violence is healthy and what begins with words soon becomes deeds. Besides, everything we say comes from ideas conceived in the subconscious, so be careful and avoid this type of behavior that can ruin your life in a second.