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Coexistence in times of pandemic
For everyone the new conditions derived from the COVID-19 pandemic have been a great change, these changing conditions have modified the way in which we interact with others and with the environment.
Social relationships have always been complex, and this complexity has only increased during the pandemic, adults spend a lot of time with their children at home and have had to develop effective strategies to remain calm within the home.
No one was prepared for all the changes we have experienced as the pandemic progresses, so we must be flexible and adapt to the situations that occur in our day to day.
What is healthy coexistence based on?
It is normal that during this adaptation process we become upset and lose our calm, however it is important to always maintain the intention and work on coexistence based on good treatment.
It is essential that we start from respect, in any situation that arises we must treat others with the same respect that we wish for ourselves.
Let us communicate our intentions, attitudes, emotions and thoughts with others so that they know what is happening inside us, it is very easy to draw the wrong conclusions about why others do what they do.
Expressing ourselves and listening to those around us allows us to be aware of how others feel and contextualize their attitudes, it also allows us to be there for the other at that moment when they need it.
Also respect the distance that each member of our family marks, it is possible that someone needs a moment of privacy after spending a lot of time with others, this is normal, and we must try to understand and respect the limits in the coexistence that mark us the rest.
This does not imply disinterest, if you are concerned about the behavior of your family members, you can show yourself willing to support them in whatever they need and at the same time respectful of the limits they set.
You can use phrases such as "I understand if you do not want to express what you feel at this moment, I will be available to discuss it and support you when you feel ready to communicate it".
When resolving a conflict, stay calm and speak to your child appropriately.
If we want our children to understand what they have done wrong, we must question their behavior, not them, avoid using phrases such as "you are messy" on the contrary, you could ask why they have not tidied their room and show yourself willing to give them your support.
We must communicate in such a way that children understand what they have done wrong and that we expect of them in future situations, shouting and insults do not really change the origin of the behavior and generate resentment and pain around the relationship with our children.
Let us have expectations appropriate to their age and their individual abilities, each child is unique, and we must let them know that we love them as they are, we reward those things they have done well and teaching them how to do better those that they can change.
Factors that can affect coexistence
Confinement and current restrictions are big factors that have affected the way we interact both inside and outside the home.
If we find ourselves stressed, anguished and overwhelmed, it will be difficult for us to face situations that arise positively. So it is beneficial that you practice self-care activities that connect you with yourself and keep you healthy both physically and mentally.
In this way you can have a greater disposition and availability for both your children and your partner.
Rest is necessary to avoid fatigue and exhaustion that will only obscure communication with those around us.
Sudden changes, uncertainty and constant fear are relevant factors to take into account that can affect coexistence, these times are difficult for many and no one knows for sure when the spread of the virus will end, so look for activities that relax and regulate us is essential in these times.
In order to have a good coexistence we must be well from the inside, stay calm, healthy and with the disposition to have a positive coexistence for everyone.
How to improve coexistence in the family?
1. Designate times for the use of the spaces in the house such as the telephone or the television.
2. Promotes children's contact with their friends without neglecting safety restrictions.
3. Organize activities with your family to strengthen your bond.
4. Designate each member a group of tasks to help at home.
5. Set an example of what you expect your children to do.
6. Stay calm in conflict situations.
