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Impulse control problems How to fix them?
Do you feel like you can't control your impulses? Is it difficult for you to calm down once you get upset? Do you generally act quickly without thinking about the consequences?
If you feel identified with the previous questions, it is likely that you have an impulse control problem.
This type of behavior can have many unpleasant consequences for you and your loved ones, so it is important to realize that it is difficult for you to control your impulses and improve about it.
This, like all problems, has a solution, but you must invest time in yourself and work on your behaviors in order to see significant changes in your actions and relationships.
The first step is to identify what you need to improve, once this is done you will be able to have the necessary disposition to be better.
What do we understand by lack of self-control?
When we refer to the lack of self-control we refer to those moments in which the situations that surround us or our own internal thoughts and emotions invade us in a way that increases the pressure, and we commit acts driven by this emotional charge and not by planning thereof.
Lack of impulse control is potentially very dangerous as it can lead to hurting others or ourselves.
This does not always occur in a stressful situation, acting on impulse may be that you are offered to consume illicit substances and due to the heat of the moment you accept without considering the negative effects that it brings to your life.
The lack of impulse control affects both the sufferer and the people around them since these people are typically exposed to dangerous situations.
They tend to be involved in harmful environments without knowing very clearly how the situation escalated in that way.
These rapid, excessive and unexpected reactions make it difficult for people to establish healthy international relations.
Disorders that are related to lack of self-control
Kleptomania : This disorder is characterized by an uncontrollable urge to steal items.
Gambling: is a disorder in which the person feels the uncontrollable desire to participate in gambling games.
Intermittent explosive disorder: it is characterized by disproportionate outbursts of anger that are sometimes accompanied by feelings of guilt and regret for the actions derived from these episodes.
Trichotillomania: this disorder is characterized by the uncontrollable force of pulling hair from the scalp and sometimes also from the eyelashes and eyebrows.
Onychophagia: Commonly recognized, people who suffer from it cannot resist biting and biting their nails.
Compulsive shopping: those who suffer from it cannot stop making purchases even when they are out of their budget.
Compulsive sexual desire: These people are invaded by a compelling and uncontrollable sexual need.
Internet addiction: in today's age it is common to see people who cannot resist surfing a disproportionate amount of hours on the Internet.
Pyromania: This disorder puts people who suffer from it at great risk since they feel an urge to start fires.
Tips to improve
1. Take a moment to think
Before making any judgment, comment or agreeing to any proposal, take a moment to consider everything you want to say or do and its possible consequences.
2. Express yourself only when you are calm
Once you have managed to calm down, express your opinion in the best possible way.
3. Do physical exercise
This helps drain and reduce stress.
4. Identify solutions
Make an effort to resolve the situation that caused the anger reaction rather than focusing on the anger itself.
5. Don't hold a grudge
Forgive those people who have made you upset, carrying the weight of resentment is agitating and harmful.
6. Find relaxation techniques that work for you
Put them into practice in those moments when you feel like you are losing control.
7. Use statements about your own emotions
To express what you feel without directly attacking the person or situation that caused your anger so as not to hurt those around you.
8. Use humor to relieve tension in stressful situations
In this way you will have a different attitude towards the circumstances and from this position you will be able to find solutions more easily without focusing on the conflict.
Seeking help for this problem is especially recommended since this way you can more easily identify the origin of your lack of drive and work on your regulation in these situations.